Deciding How You Want to Live
Be clear on why you are starting over. Spend some time determining whether or not you are creating a new life out of necessity or desire. If this is a choice based out of need, then you’ll want to identify what life improvements you will need to make as well. If you are making a decision based out of want, then carefully consider what your ideal life looks like. For example, if you are starting a new life because you need some space from negative family members, then you might include limiting contact with these persons as part of your plans. Or, if you are starting a new life because you want a challenge and some excitement, then you might consider placing yourself in an unusual circumstance, such as living in a foreign country.
Make any moving plans, if necessary. You may need to move to a new apartment or house in order to truly start over in the same city. Or, you may need to head out of the country entirely. Do as much research as you can online to determine the best way to use your limited funds. Look for locations where the cost of living is cheap and jobs are plentiful. Find locations with affordable living options by selecting cities and then searching online for rent and food expense estimates. For example, in the Cook Islands you can find an apartment to rent for $130 a month.
Decide who to keep in contact with. Starting over can mean severing some personal ties, but it doesn’t always require breaking your bonds with your loved ones. Go through a list of all of your friends and family and determine what place they should have in your new life, if any at all. You’ll also want to consider how you will break the news to everyone that you’ve decided to start over, or if you will just stay silent about your choices. For example, if you are trying to rebuild your finances and you have a relative who has a tendency to be a bad financial influence, then you will need to determine if you should continue to interact with them moving forward.
Keep a goal journal. Spend at least 15 minutes a day writing and thinking about your current situation and editing your goals. Try to create goals for a month, for one year out, for five years out, and for ten years out. Reassess your goals on a regular basis and change them if you need to. Make sure that your goals closely align with what type of life you’d like to lead in the future. For example, you might write, “I would like to have $500 saved by the end of the year.” This will help you to be more financially stable, so it will likely fit with your lifestyle choices, too, Make sure to think both big and small when setting your goals. Don’t be afraid to push for a goal that seems a long-shot.
Break down each goal into a series of actionable steps. Consider exactly what actions you’ll need to take for each goal and write them down as a sequence. As you decide to tackle that particular goal, look at this list as a reference. This will make larger goals seem more possible. This, in turn, will make you feel more in control of potentially difficult situations. For example, if you plan to save money, then you’ll probably need to start by monitoring your spending or perhaps opening a savings account.
Seek out exciting, new experiences. It can be easy to get bogged down in the unknown or the unusual when you are starting over. Instead, force yourself to use positive adjectives when describing what you are experiencing. Change from using “weird” to “exciting,” for example. If you feel yourself getting too anxious, tell yourself to open your eyes and find one thing positive about your new environment. For example, try to seek out the natural beauty of an area. Look for how the birds fly in the sky or how the sunlight comes through the trees. If you are stuck in an office all of the time, you can even print out these images and place them around you.
Give yourself positive encouragement. Starting over takes time and a great deal of work. Don’t expect everything to be in order overnight. Instead, be gentle with yourself and acknowledge all of your victories, even the small ones. Tell yourself throughout the day, “You are doing good.” Give yourself compliments as often as possible. It is helpful to see your life as a book. This is just one chapter of many and does not necessarily tell you what the end will be. You are still writing it out. You will also need to be watchful when you fail, so that you don’t let these moments set you too far off course. For example, if you make a poor spending choice with your limited funds, see if you can correct it as quickly as possible.
Rebuilding Your Financial Life
List out your debts. Take out a piece of paper or open up a spreadsheet on your computer. Write down all of the details regarding your debts. Include information about required payment amounts, due dates, and interest percentages. Update this list often and mark off the debts as you pay them off. This will also allow you to see which debts need to be paid off first and which ones can come later. For example, it is always a good idea to pay off high interest credit card charges as soon as possible. One entry on your list might look like, “American Express Card, $1,800 balance, 18% percent interest rate, $25 minimum payment per month.”
Develop a savings plan. Even without any money at present, it is still a good idea to consider what you will do with cash when you have it. Your goal should be to move away from a lifestyle that involves surviving paycheck to paycheck. This could mean finding a job and moving a certain percentage of pay into a savings account each month. This could also mean spending some time learning about saving on a site such as Learnvest. There are also some handy spending “tricks” that you can learn, such as setting aside the change from your checking transactions using an app, such as Qapital.
Choose a thrifty lifestyle. Make a decision to pursue frugal, but safe, accommodations. If you are moving, select a location that will allow you to live in a thrifty way. Look into the cost of living numbers and consider the benefits of living within a city versus in a rural area, for example. You can also investigate saving money on transportation by forgoing a car. For example, Panama is one location where you can live comfortably for around $300 a month.
Find a job. If do not have a paid position, then look for one by creating a solid resume. It might help for you to list out all of your skills before you begin applying for positions. You could contact a temp agency as well or just browse the job sites on your own. Make sure that you only apply for legitimate work opportunities. You might also consider putting your skills to work by creating a business.
Create back-up plans. Without a financial safety net, there are many moments in life that you will need to navigate carefully. You’ll feel less anxious if you create at least one back-up plan for all of the major decisions and actions that you take. Try to think about both worst and best case scenarios. For example, if you are saving money by cycling to work and your bicycle breaks down, what will you do? You might want to investigate public transportation as a back-up option.
Talk with a financial advisor. Go online and enter your city and “financial advisor.” Then, contact each advisor and ask if they offer any fee-free assistance. If they do, make an appointment and bring all of your financial paperwork with you to the meeting. They may also ask that you attend a financial support group with some of their other clients. You can also find a forum for financial advice online and ask the members for tips on savings and tracking spending.
Getting Help From Others
Take advantage of government programs. Talk to government officials in your area to see if there are any assistance programs available to you. Consider these programs a temporary way to give your finances a boost in order to prepare you for future success. Make sure to follow all guidelines involved with the program. For example, there are many government grants available to small business owners. Some of these grants can help you to start over with a new business even if you lack the initial funding. Check with the Small Business Association (SBA) for more details.
Ask your friends and family for help. Tell your friends and relatives about your goals and your plans to start over. See if they have any suggestions or advice. They might also be able to provide you with additional resources, financial or otherwise, to help you get on your feet. Be aware that your story and choices may also help others to make positive changes in their own life. For example, you might have a friend who is struggling with credit card debt and could use any information that you learn about paying it down. When talking to your friends and family members you might say, “I have very little money to work with, but I’m planning to get a job in an industry that guarantees regular pay and insurance as well.”
Consider staying with friends. Living expenses can very quickly destroy your budget and ability to save. If you have a friend or family member who is willing to let you “couch surf” for a while, you might consider this as a viable option. It will allow you to save up money and give you enough time to find a living situation that suits your frugal lifestyle. You may also find that you are not the only person living in someone else’s home, especially in big cities. It is quite common for people to open their home’s to others searching for paid work in crowded, competitive areas.
Make lots of professional contacts. Every time that you talk with someone, try to consider how they could work as a professional contact for you. This may sound mercenary, but considering these connections can also make it possible for you to help them as well. When you are out in public, try to talk with the people that you encounter and be friendly as often as possible. For example, if you are a waiter looking for work it never hurts to talk with the wait staff when you eat out at restaurants. They may be able to give you some tips regarding looking for a job in that area.
Talk with a therapist. Go online and enter your city and “therapist” into a search engine. Contact these professionals to see if any of them offer free sessions or group therapy. If so, this can be a great way for you to explore your past choices and how you can make changes for the present. In a support group, you can also find people who can be your friends in your new life.
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