Tamannaah Bhatia is not just an accomplished actor, but also someone who isn’t afraid to wear her heart on her sleeve. Known for her candor and clarity about her personal experiences and relationships, she recently opened up on Raj Shamani’s ‘Finding Out’ podcast, shedding light on everything from her career highs to her views on love, relationships, and personal growth.
In the conversation, Tamannaah dove deep into some of the biggest red flags she has encountered in relationships. “One shouldn’t try so hard to change your partner and turn them into what you think is their perfect version, which is actually what you want them to be. It’s a form of control,” she explained. “It’s a red flag. Similarly, lying is a big red flag. I can’t be with people who lie, especially the ones who lie for even the smallest of things. They are pathological liars, and it makes you always wonder if what they say is ever the truth.”
Tamannaah’s perspective on relationships extends beyond just spotting red flags, though. When asked about what men could do to foster a healthy relationship, her response was simple yet profound: “Listen. Just listen to your woman. Most of the time, they aren’t talking to you in anticipation of a solution. In fact, it isn’t even important to solve the problem. Just be there, and give empathy. Make sure she realises that you hear her issues, her aspirations, and she matters to you.”
The conversation took a deeper turn when she touched on personal evolution and how it impacts relationships. “A person can only understand as much as they’ve evolved. So, there is no point raising an issue or arguing it out,” she said, highlighting the futility of certain arguments. Her insight into the importance of emotional maturity was as striking as her honesty.
Tamannaah also reflected on the concept of love languages, revealing that for her, words of affirmation and spending quality time with a partner are key. Interestingly, she shared that in the past, she found excessive gift-giving uncomfortable. “Yes, all five are needed in some form or the other. Just that, some need one form more than the other. In fact, earlier, I used to get offended when gifted excessively, because it felt like they were trying to show that they can do something. It’s like they were putting a price tag on the relationship,” she admitted.
Speaking candidly about her past heartbreaks, Tamannaah described how these experiences helped her grow. “Earlier, I was just a very giving partner without even considering if they were in a position to receive it. It was definitely toxic positivity. It is the give-and-take exchange that makes a relationship.”
Despite these experiences, she emphasized that she remains a giving partner, but now with a deeper understanding of balance. “I am honest and true in a relationship. I am very expressive and caring. I am very instinctive about my partner, and I am good at understanding what is not being said. We all know what hurts our partners, and I will make sure that I never consciously say anything to hurt them.”
Reflecting on the pivotal lessons from her past heartbreaks, Tamannaah shared how each played a significant role in shaping her personal growth. “The first happened when I was very young. ,” she recalled. “I wasn’t sure if I could have given up all of my needs and desires for one person. I wanted to explore more in my life. The other heartbreak was when I realised that the person wouldn’t be a good influence in my life in the long run,” she revealed.
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