How to Have an Effective Handshake

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For those cultures that value the handshake, much meaning is transferred by the manner in which you proffer your hand and the method with which you shake the other person's hand. Some people make instant judgments about your character as a result of your handshake, so it pays to make sure it's conveying what you want it to.

Steps

Know when to use your handshake. The appropriate times to shake another person's hand include: When you are introduced to someone When you say goodbye to someone At the beginning or the end of a business, social, church, or other meeting Whenever it seems appropriate within a business context, such as sealing a deal. When you’re in charge and you meet a new team member.

Be the first to extend your hand. This makes a strong, lasting impression on the person at the receiving end. It is also about control; by offering your hand first, you are leading the way. This applies to both men and women; don't shy away for reasons of being coy or putting yourself down. The one exception is if you’re visiting someone’s home or office. Wait for them to reach out first when you’re on their home turf. The other time that you should not seek to be so affable as to offer to shake first is where there is an authority structure in place that should be adhered to. For example, if there is a more senior or higher-ranked person in a social gathering, work or business context, follow the lead of the higher ranked person (President, Governor-General, CEO etc.).

Extend your right hand straight before the handshake. Do not have your palm facing either up or down; keep your hand perfectly vertical with your thumb raised in the air. The exception to using the right hand is if you don't have one, if it is paralyzed or otherwise seriously injured.

Take the other person's hand in a firm but not rock-hard clasp. Make sure that the web located between your thumb and fingers meets the web of the other person's hand.

Keep your hand parallel to the ground. Do not roll it sideways for the handshake. Keep the fingers together with the thumb up and open.

Shake up and down 3 times. Avoid excessive pumping or shaking as it becomes annoying and distracting. Just move your hand up and down a few times. Don't linger for too long. A normal handshake lasts about 3-5 seconds. If you hold someone's hand too long, it can become an embarrassing social faux pas.

When giving the handshake, make eye contact and state your usual greetings. Convey confidence in both your handshake and stance. If this is your first time meeting them, this would typically be the first time